Being of 'mixed' background I was the subject of some physical bullying, predominantly it was verbal. This included, incredibly, being racially mocked by a teacher at secondary school! Agree with you Mark, bullies are cowards, often form 'friendships' based on fear and are insecure individuals. My own response was initially to try and ignore it, to my detriment. It impacted me so much that I became pretty insular and flunked some important exams. I was lucky, I was resilient and smart, using my academic ability to ultimately escape these morons. Others may not have such coping mechanisms and yep, I advocate standing ones ground, seeking support and outing those who belong in a dark, stimulus -free cave.
Thanks Mark. I was fortunate in that I stayed on to do A level's, the bulk of those who'd been on my back left school. I became part of a strong friendship group - I was a Goth! - which gave me a greater sense of self -identity and security. Bullies feed off of insecurity and by removing this largely, their source of 'amusement' was removed.Removing oneself or removing the problem is important. In my case puberty played a big part. I feel this is important as I have no doubt there are many pubescent teens out there facing similar challenges to which their hormones are adding.
Being of 'mixed' background I was the subject of some physical bullying, predominantly it was verbal. This included, incredibly, being racially mocked by a teacher at secondary school! Agree with you Mark, bullies are cowards, often form 'friendships' based on fear and are insecure individuals. My own response was initially to try and ignore it, to my detriment. It impacted me so much that I became pretty insular and flunked some important exams. I was lucky, I was resilient and smart, using my academic ability to ultimately escape these morons. Others may not have such coping mechanisms and yep, I advocate standing ones ground, seeking support and outing those who belong in a dark, stimulus -free cave.
Thanks for sharing your story Lym, that takes guts.
It’s disappointing if not a shock to hear that a teacher was involved in the bullying.
I’m glad you were able to use your resilience and academic ability to rise above it, but you’re right—many aren’t as fortunate.
What helped you stand your ground in the end? Appreciate your thoughts on this important topic.
Best. M
Thanks Mark. I was fortunate in that I stayed on to do A level's, the bulk of those who'd been on my back left school. I became part of a strong friendship group - I was a Goth! - which gave me a greater sense of self -identity and security. Bullies feed off of insecurity and by removing this largely, their source of 'amusement' was removed.Removing oneself or removing the problem is important. In my case puberty played a big part. I feel this is important as I have no doubt there are many pubescent teens out there facing similar challenges to which their hormones are adding.
Thanks for sharing that, mate.
Glad you found your crew and a stronger sense of self—it makes all the difference.
You’re right about the impact of puberty; it’s a tough time, and bullies can really latch onto those insecurities.
Appreciate you bringing that up.
Best. M
Thanks for sharing these, always insightful Mark!
I wish the American media would face the obvious bully in Trump as you described so well, and the consequences.